UPDATED FOR 2019:
To send a private message on Facebook is super easy…once you know-how. 😉
I’m going to cut right to the chase and show you how you can private message a friend.
But then don’t leave the page until you read below it because I want to share a little secret with you that not to many people know about.
More Visual? I put together this video so you can follow along. 🙂
There are actually three ways you can send a message to someone, from your news feed, their timeline or your message icon. (If you’re not familiar with the newsfeed, timeline or where your message icon is located check out my Beginners Guide to Facebook and it will explain everything there. )
For this tutorial, we are going to use my beautiful sister as an example.
Sending private messages from your newsfeed
When you are scrolling through your newsfeed and you see a friend or even a Business page that you want to send a private message to, simply mouse over their name, a portion of their timeline will popup, and click on the Message box.
Once you click on the message box the following window should pop up. Once this opens you are free to start messaging that person in which the messages will remain private between the two of you. (Unless of course they want to screenshot it and share with everyone. Just please keep in mind that whatever is said online can and unfortunately has been used against people)
Sending a Private Message through a friends timeline
Head over to the person’s profile/timeline that you want to message. When there, click on the Message button and the same window that popped up in the image above will pop up. Once again you will be messaging with only that person.
Using Message Icon to send a New Message
Instead of having to go to your friends/family timeline you can go straight to your message box and send a new message from there. This is also the place you can view all message that you have been a part of.
Click on your message icon located at the top right of your screen. Notice the conversations you have been a part of and if you would like to continue the conversation with someone just click within the box next to their image.
To start a new conversation click Send a New Message.
When you click Send a New Message the following box will pop up and you can begin typing the name of the person you wish to send a private message to.
Send Group Message on Facebook
You can also send a group message by choosing one person then begin typing another person’s name and choose them. Continue till you have everyone selected that you want to send a message to. (Beware of sending a group message: See my revelation below)
Once you find the person, choose their name and then begin typing your message to them.
There you have it. The 3 different ways you can send a private message in FB.
Are Messages on Facebook Private?
For the most part yes, when done between two people but when it comes to Group messaging then no. Read on to find out what I mean:
Thank you, this was very useful. The question I have is if you message multiple people – will it definitely exclude those not included? For example; if I ask in personal message to multiple people to like a website will other friends not included in the message see the request in anyway? Obviously I am very new at this.
To which my response back was:
Only those that are within the message can see the message itself. Now if you are talking about having them “Like” a certain page on Facebook their friends will see what page they are liking. But if you are sending them to a website then, unless they tell others about it, they will be the only ones to see it.
This piqued my curiosity though because I wanted to see if I sent a message to a group of people could those included in the message add others to the conversation. If not, as the originator of the conversation did I have the ability to add others.
What I found was very surprising.
I sent a Facebook Group message to my faithful sisters. I asked them if they would mind trying to add someone to our conversation so I could see what the outcome would be. Take a look at our conversation below:
My sister Melissa added her daughter, my niece to the conversation even though it said she was denied!!
But get this, Crystal entered the conversation and said not only was she added but she could see the entire conversation we all had before she entered.
Whoa, wait a minute! She was added to the conversation AND could see the entire conversation. This is crazy! I had NO clue you could do this. Did you?
Knowing this, will you think again before you send a group message?
NOTE: I did try this with a private message between me and someone else and it would not allow me to add anyone to that conversation. It appears that you can only add more people to a group message.